22 February 2008
Fighting the Frump - For Fat Girls
Okay - I am going to "go there". There being, of course, down the body-positive path. Let's get something straight. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. In any one woman's lifetime she may be asked to embrace a few different sized versions of her - the important thing to remember is that they are all her!! Special, unique and beautiful.
I came to the realization not all that long ago that what I have right now, may just be as good as it is going to get. And you know what? That is okay. It really really is. I am healthy. I am strong. I don't fit into any nice neat little weight charts, but guess what? I no longer care! I want to take the me I am right now and package it as well as I can. And THAT is the focus of this blog post.
Even if you want to lose weight (hey - you want to fight the fight - go for it - I am over it, but you may still want in on all of that) you should do everything you can to pamper the body you have right now. None of this "I have to lose five more pounds" B.S. Listen up... if you do not like your body, you will only struggle to take good care of it. Did you hear me?? It is critical to your mission to take good care of what you have right now! No delays! This means manicures, pedicures, daily make-up - all of it! DOn't read these frump-fighting posts and think you are off the hook until you loose ten more pounds - no ma'am! As a matter of fact I believe it to be even more critical for those of us more zaftique women to look our best. Face it - if you are a perky little size 6 you can get away with a sloppy t-shirt to run to the grocery store. If a fat girl tries to pull that stunt - well it doesn't bode well for her, does it?
So - do this. Go to your closet and find everything you have that fits you today. Right at this minute. Not things that are too baggy or too tight. Things that make you look like the goddess you are right now. Pull together one good outfit. Put some makeup on. Do your hair. See how you feel. If you can not find one outfit I want you to go buy one. Just one.
Need to learn more about how to dress your beautiful figure? Our friends at Igigi can help there - they have wonderful clothing too - check it out while you are there. alight.com is also great. Kiyonna, and old standbys such as Avenue and Lane Bryant.
Fighting the Frump for the Fat Girls... Be kind to your body, love what you have, be the best and most beautiful you you can be. Right NOW!
Come on - try it!
The lovely-as-always Barbara Brickner: